Hope this Helps! – Invitations Pt. 4

Design Styles

If you’re engaged to a person who has totally different design preferences than you and you’d like to test the strength of your love for one another…just wait until you have to pick out invitations! It is a great test of compromise and budgeting skills! As I mentioned before in part 1, a lot of invitation companies sell each piece individually. That means you not only have to negotiate with your partner on the design of the invitation but on which and how many pieces are really needed for your wedding. Now, given an unlimited budget, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to find something you BOTH like. But here’s OUR problem.

 

Ciara’s style is like this:

Vintage Fanfare

Regal, Sophisticated and Vintage

 

By Vintage, do you mean old? 

 

While my style is more like this:

Modern, Quirky, Fresh

Modern, Quirky, Fresh

 

 

I get vintage, but you get fresh? My design preferences are vintagely-fresh. 

EXACT. OPPOSITES.

 

So how did we do it? After literally 3 months, we got so frustrated that Ciara gave up and let me pick whatever I wanted. (And this, my friends, is a lesson in and of itself. Don’t go back-and-forth on something as simple as an invitation. Just do what will make your spouse happy.)  🙂 BUT being the good future wife that I am *brushes shoulders off*, I refrained from choosing my favorite design and picked one that we both liked.

 

I should mention that it isn’t that we couldn’t find ANYTHING we both liked. It’s just that some of the really good designs just didn’t fit in our budget or took too long to print up.  I mean, imagine paying $4.00 for the invitation ONLY (not including RSVP cards, etc). If you need to send them out to 100 people, you’re already looking at nearly $500 on invitations! It isn’t impossible, but I just really couldn’t see US spending that much on invitations. (Nope! There was NO way that we were going to pay $500+ for invitations. I could draw our wedding invitations for $8.92.)

 

Some things that might make your invitation search easier are:

  1. Having a theme – I know it sounds cheesy but if you have a set theme like “Paris” or “Travel”, it is easier to search websites for those keywords and only browse a few options rather than a couple thousand!
  2. Knowing your colors ahead of time – you can also search many websites by color or special features like glitter and foil.
  3. Ordering catalogues and samples early on – many companies send out a catalogue or samples at no cost so you can see what colors look like. Minted.com sent us a GREAT kit that had all their paper types,  printing types, colors and popular designs in it FOR FREE. It was high quality stuff. David’s Bridal sent us free samples in the colors we were debating on so that we could be sure about the printing before we ordered. (There are approximately 2,947,493.4 shades of purple, y’all)
  4. Know your personal style as a couple. We couldn’t find many designs we liked on certain sites because they just catered to a different style. Some were very muted tones and others were very lacey and traditional.
  5. Talk about the value of the invitation. For some couples, the invitation is the first glimpse you get of the wedding style itself. And if you have a theme it will be important to carry that into your invites. But for others, it isn’t that big of a deal. Either way is OK. Having a conversation about this early on will help you set a realistic budget and stick to it.

So, basically, if you are EVER planning on needing wedding invitations, do yourself a favor and start a Pinterest board NOW. Like RIGHT now. Stop what you are doing, ask your boss for a 15- minute break and make that Pinterest board! And then add me, we’ll pin together. 🙂

 

Hope this helps!

XOXO,

~Mel

Hope This Helps! : Invitations Pt. 3

Martha & Snoop

MARTHA

 

Now I know, some of us have mixed opinions on Martha Stewart, but I’ve got to admit that when it comes to wedding etiquette, she’s got you covered. If you want to know what the rules are about ANYTHING, Martha’s got advice for you. So how did that make things harder for me? Well, if you can’t tell already, there are a LOT of things to consider when choosing wedding invitations without thinking about what is “traditional”.

Once you start looking up etiquette for one thing, you realize that there are entire books written on the subject and you could spend weeks trying to bring your invitations (or ceremony, or reception) up to that standard. (Or you can take my approach, order what looks nice and keep it kicking.)

Honestly, I don’t understand how people do it and it makes me even more grateful for all of our friends and family who don’t really care what we do as long as they get an invitation!

So here’s the deal. I respect you as a person. I’m not going to boss you around and tell you how to have your wedding. But if you’re curious about invitation etiquette, I’ll link some interesting things below.  I see the value in some of these and not so much for others. Just remember this: it is YOUR wedding! Do what you want (especially if you’re the one paying for it!).

 

  1. Check out this article on how to tell guests about your registry. (I disagree on this one)
  2. Click here for information on how to address all three of your envelopes.
  3. Here’s some info on how to handle “plus one”s.
  4. Minted.com has a great timeline for when to send things out!

 So, what do you think about #1? Answer our poll!

 

 

Hope this helps!

XOXO

~Mel