Hope This Helps! : Invitations Pt. 3

Martha & Snoop

MARTHA

 

Now I know, some of us have mixed opinions on Martha Stewart, but I’ve got to admit that when it comes to wedding etiquette, she’s got you covered. If you want to know what the rules are about ANYTHING, Martha’s got advice for you. So how did that make things harder for me? Well, if you can’t tell already, there are a LOT of things to consider when choosing wedding invitations without thinking about what is “traditional”.

Once you start looking up etiquette for one thing, you realize that there are entire books written on the subject and you could spend weeks trying to bring your invitations (or ceremony, or reception) up to that standard. (Or you can take my approach, order what looks nice and keep it kicking.)

Honestly, I don’t understand how people do it and it makes me even more grateful for all of our friends and family who don’t really care what we do as long as they get an invitation!

So here’s the deal. I respect you as a person. I’m not going to boss you around and tell you how to have your wedding. But if you’re curious about invitation etiquette, I’ll link some interesting things below.  I see the value in some of these and not so much for others. Just remember this: it is YOUR wedding! Do what you want (especially if you’re the one paying for it!).

 

  1. Check out this article on how to tell guests about your registry. (I disagree on this one)
  2. Click here for information on how to address all three of your envelopes.
  3. Here’s some info on how to handle “plus one”s.
  4. Minted.com has a great timeline for when to send things out!

 So, what do you think about #1? Answer our poll!

 

 

Hope this helps!

XOXO

~Mel

 

 

Vendor Spotlight: Carolina Cake Artistry

Contact Person: Dayna and Tim

Email: dayna@carolinacakeartistry.com

Services Provided: Baking goods, specifically cakes and cupcakes

Website: http://www.carolinacakeartistry.com/

 

How we met Dayna and Tim

We were first introduced to Carolina Cake Artistry at the Carolina Bridal Fair in Concord, NC. There were many bakeries represented at this fair, but few left a lasting impression. Carolina Cake Artistry was different. As we approached their booth, Dayna greeted us with a smile and took a genuine interest in learning more about our wedding cake vision.

And the best part was…

Everything we sampled was SO good! You just couldn’t try one thing, you had to try it all. Well, at least that’s what Ciara did. She tried every single sample and raved for weeks about how good it was. When she wasn’t raving about the cake bites, she was trying to convince me that we could have a pumpkin cake for a July wedding (Ciara here- Let it be known that a Thanksgiving-themed wedding in July would have been unique and… well… memorable)

Fast forward a few months…

And our close friend, Mara, mentions a local bakery that she’s worked with before. Guess who it was? Yep, Carolina Cake Artistry! Mara connects us with Dayna and immediately we remember meeting them at the Carolina Bridal Fair. After exchanging a few emails, we scheduled our cake tasting.

 

The Cake Tasting

We wrote about our cake tasting experience a few posts ago, as a refresher, check it out here.

Vendor Spotlight: Your Wellness Coach

Contact Person: Maureen Carlomagno

Email: maureen@your-wellness-coach.com

Services Provided: Health and Wellness Coaching

Website: http://www.your-wellness-coach.com

 

How we met Maureen

After reading about us in Creative Loafing, Maureen sent us an email to introduce herself and her company. She explained that she had recently developed a coaching package especially for couples who were planning their wedding and that she would love to work with us and extend her new service to us for free!

Yes, our favorite word, FREE!

I don’t think five minutes passed before we were responding to her email for more details. Throughout the day, we exchanged a few more emails and scheduled our first meeting.

 

Our First Meeting

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Melinda’s smile says it all. Our first meeting with Maureen was great! There are so many things we could appreciate about Maureen. But here are a few that really resonated with us: she was kind, very knowledgeable, attentive and genuine. She listened and we could tell that she sincerely cared to learn more about us. And as you would expect from any coach, she was organized, direct and very thorough.

How thorough?

So thorough that Melinda didn’t have any questions after we wrapped up our meeting!

And that never happens.

 

The Coaching Package- The Intuitive Bride

Some couples seek pre-marital counseling to prepare them for marriage while others just jump the broom with their fingers crossed. Melinda and I are taking a different approach. For 8-weeks, we will work one-on-one with Maureen to address different topics like: Health History, Personality and Life Values Assessments, Goal Setting and Health Action Plan, Health Risks and Personal Biometric Information, Nutrition and Healthy Eating, Exercise, Objective Self-Review, Time Management, Stress Management, Social Support, Staying Motivated, and Positive Mindset.

This coaching package will equip us with tools and resources that we can use throughout our marriage. It will give Melinda and I an opportunity to grow in our knowledge of each other, because it’s true, you can be with someone for many years and still learn something new about them every day.

During one of our most recent coaching sessions with Maureen, we learned about our personality types. And although our personality types were quite similar, there were a few differences that we were able to identify. We both walked away with a better understanding of how we can communicate more effectively with each other. Now we have new knowledge that we will be able to apply in our everyday interaction.

But What If You’re Not Getting Married Right Now?

You can still use Maureen’s services! She offers both individual and group coaching packages that you can read more about here. She also conducts various health and wellness seminars in and around Charlotte. In fact, if you’re in the Charlotte area this weekend, Maureen will be hosting a free “How To” Online Shopping Class at Harris Teeter. We’ve included the details below:

Seminar: Harris Teeter “How To” Online Shopping Class: Learn how to shop faster, smarter and healthier

Date: Saturday, February 28, 2015

Time: 10:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m.

Location: Davidson Harris Teeter, 431 Peninsula Drive, Davidson, NC 28036

Topics Covered In The Class: Learn how to shop from the comfort of your home or office, shop online in under 30 minutes, then pick up your order in 10 minutes or less, learn tips to stick to your grocery budget, save valuable time in your busy schedule, unlimited shopping available, convenient pick-up times, new tips and tricks on the Harris Teeter app and website and how to make eating healthier easier.

Register Here: http://goo.gl/forms/rhihP2lxSi

 

To Have Your Cake and Eat It Too- Ciara & Melinda’s Cake Tasting Adventure

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Ciara here, can I be honest with you all? I counted down for our special day. Now before you all say, “Awww, isn’t she sweet,” I must confess that I’m not talking about the wedding day (although I am counting down for that too). I had an official cake tasting countdown. See, for me, cake is a serious matter. Almost as serious as coffee. And I wanted to be sure that our guests experienced the best wedding cake possible at our wedding. So weeks prior to the cake tasting, I increased the intensity of my workouts to make up for the gluttony that would follow. One could say, “Ciara, how could eating bite-sized cake pieces equal gluttonous behavior?”

Let me explain…

For starters, let’s discuss how we arrived at the cake tasting stage. Earlier this month, our close friend, Mara, referred us to a potential wedding cake vendor. And after visiting their website, I immediately remembered tasting a sample (“a” sample, Ciara?)  Okay, since Melinda wants to call me out, I remembered tasting all the samples; and being really impressed with them all. We exchanged a few emails with the vendor and scheduled a complimentary cake tasting for two weeks out.

The Day Arrives…

And I’m ready. I flossed and brushed really well. I even ate a light breakfast. Minutes into our consultation, we’re greeted with two plates of four different cakes. Then Dayna, one of the owners of the company, asks one of my favorite questions,  “Would anyone like coffee?” I knew then we had found our wedding cake vendor. Okay, maybe not at that exact moment, but they certainly scored major cool points. For the next few minutes, Melinda and I are tasting different cake and frosting options; but Melinda is chipping off baby pieces of cake. Here’s where the gluttony comes in…

8.5 minutes into the consultation and my cake is all gone…

But Melinda’s isn’t. She’s had enough to determine her favorites and I’m left with a tough life decision, do I eat her cake and just deal with the gluttony later or do I let the cake go to waste? I thought about all the people starving in the world and decided the least I could do in that moment was not be wasteful. I said…

And ate her cake too.

 

You know what? I didn’t really need all that cake anyway, babe. Jesus might have been lookin’ out because I’ve got to fit into a wedding dress in 6 months! But seriously, this was one of the easiest decisions to make for me. Probably because I was well aware that the cake was going to be Ciara’s “thing”. It was honestly kinda cute to see her enjoy her favorite part of this entire process and I’m really glad we got the cake that she wanted. I guess this is how she feels when she gets me the purse, make-up, blanket, smashburger, that I wanted. It is a good feeling. 🙂

All of their cakes are made from scratch using the freshest ingredients and you can tell. The cake was delicious. We decided on a custom-designed, three-tier wedding cake. We cannot wait for you to see the finished product!

 

Ciara & Melinda’s Feature Story on Black Lesbian Love Lab

Ciara gets down on bended knee in front of Melinda.

Photo Credit- S. Espinosa Photography

 

If you haven’t liked our Facebook page , chances are that you missed the feature story we did with  Black Lesbian Love Lab . We had such a great time doing this interview and wanted to be sure that all of our readers checked it out! So if you missed the feature story or if you have an interest in learning more about me and Melinda, definitely check this story out. Click here to read it.

Ciara & Melinda Make Creative Loafing Charlotte’s 15 People to Watch in 2015

Ciara Lilly, the mannequin, and Melinda Robinson

Photo Credit: Creative Loafing, Melissa Oyler

 

We are thrilled to announce that we have been recognized by Creative Loafing Charlotte as one of 15 people to watch in 2015.

It is an honor to share the list with some of Charlotte’s most amazing changemakers. If you’re in the Charlotte area, be sure to pick up your copy of Creative Loafing today. For our friends outside of Charlotte, you can check out our feature story online by clicking here.

 

 

Vendor Spotlight: Celebration Sounds Entertainment

 

 

Celebration Sounds

 

 

Contact Person: Rick Hyburg

Email: Rick@CelebrationSoundsNC.com

Services Provided: Wedding and Special Event DJ Services

Website: http://www.celebrationsoundsnc.com

How we met Rick

For months we sought a DJ for our wedding and just couldn’t find the right fit for us. This all changed when our good friend, Mara, introduced us to Rick at Celebration Sounds Entertainment. After a few Facebook exchanges and a quick browse of his website and Facebook page, we eagerly scheduled a consultation with him.

The Consultation

When we first started our wedding planning journey, we both identified what elements of the wedding were most important to us. The number one thing on Melinda’s list was the DJ. So you can imagine how excited she was during this consultation. We were prepared. We even had a list of interview questions, as seen below, that we printed from our wedding planning binder.

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What really resonated with us about Rick was that he had a sincere desire to learn more about us, first. Before we discussed his services, we spent time learning about one another. He shared his professional experience, explained how this whole process would work and even gave examples of various success stories that developed our confidence in his DJing abilities. He was professional, engaged, funny and didn’t mind answering the 150,498, 239, 398 (okay, maybe that’s a slight exaggeration) questions Melinda had.

We knew we had found the right DJ

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This is our celebratory cabbage patch dance

On our special day, Celebration Sounds Entertainment, will handle the ceremony and reception music. We cannot share too much, because we want our guests to be surprised, but we’ll say this much… This will not be your Grandmother’s wedding ceremony and reception. And Celebration Sounds Entertainment is making it possible!

Goodbye 2014, Hello 2015

Today is the last day of 2014 and we didn’t want to end the year without acknowledging our readers. According to our WordPress stats, our blog was visited over 490 times in 2014. Most of our readers are from the United States, but we have devoted readers from other countries like: Jamaica, Japan, England, Africa, Poland, etc. We also have 11 subscribed followers of our blog! And last, but not least, on our Facebook page; which you can find here, we have 271 likes!

What do we have to say about that?

And we mean it.

In 2015, we purpose to share even more of our journey with you. You can expect more vendor spotlights, more updates concerning our progress and even some wedding planning advice!

One of our biggest goals for 2015 is to attract more opportunities that allow us to spread our story across a larger audience. Beyond unveiling our wedding planning journey as a same-sex couple in the south; we want to reach those individuals that need to hear that it’s okay to love who you are and who you’re with, without any fear or shame. Basically, we just want to show evidence that love truly conquers all- our story speaks to that. So if you have ideas on how we can achieve this, like perhaps you’re Oprah and want us on Super Soul Sunday, then please contact us.

To each of you reading this, we wish you and your families, a prosperous 2015! May it be your best year yet! Thank you so much for playing a part in making 2014 such a memorable year for us!

 

Happy New Year,

Ciara & Melinda